It’s a question we get a lot in our consults. You want to know what it will be like have us in your space. How will we act and interact? We feel like the picture above is the best explanation we could ever give.
But who do you tell? And when?
Do you have a partner to tell? Do you wait and surprise them? Do you tell your family? Your best friend?
But wait… aren’t you supposed to wait before you tell some people? And why?
I watched her start to crawl up on me. I saw her carefully placed hands, elbows, and knees avoid all my “problem” areas. The spots she had accidentally dug into a million times that she knows will make yelp. She made it my lap, laid her head on my chest, and looked up into my eyes.
What’s the answer? Are we supposed to never break eye contact with our children, maintaining an exact distance of five feet, following at this distance outside all day away from all things digital (they aren’t going to need that stuff to survive in our society anyways), while making sure we are emotionally available to them by which we mean teaching them to be tough (no more whiney baby snowflakes) and not discussing mental illnesses?
You need people that understand why you live exclusively in yoga pants now and have gone through an entire bottle of dry shampoo and cheap wine (ok more than one) in the last week.
If you’re a new mom, just immersing yourself in the world of online parenting, you may have noticed a lot of different talk about parenting philosophies. You’ve also probably noticed when reading through comments on basically any post relating to parenting that parenting styles differ drastically from person to person. How do you know which style is the right fit for you? It will depend on a few factors, including your own personality, and that of your baby once he/she is born.
Is 4 weeks too early?
Should I wait until at least six weeks?
What if its flu season?
What if I’m alone?
What if it’s cold?
Often when we are contacted about our postpartum packages it is by someone who has dealt with postpartum mood disorders with a previous birth, someone who knows their life is too busy to handle on their own, or a friend/family member of a birthing individual. Rarely are we contacted by the birthing individual's partner.
Sex during pregnancy is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.
The purpose of guilt is to cue us into when we’ve done something wrong- if we’ve violated our code of ethics, hurt someone, or not done our best, then feeling guilty makes sense. We should try to make it the situation right, and learn from our mistake. That’s being a good human.