We’ve all been there.
Whether we were the person venting or the well-meaning advice giver. These types of situations are even more frequent on social media.
What am I talking about?
A post you’ve seen a hundred times.
The vent post.
What do they all have in common? The people offering all kinds of advice on how to “fix” the problem. These people are filled with good intentions and well wishes, but they kind of suck. More often than not that advice hurts more than it helps.
Because of what it feels like.
It feels like they are saying you can’t solve this problem on your own and like they’re insinuating you haven’t already tried EVERYTHING possible.
You probably have. That’s why you’re frustrated.
It hurts because what you need emotionally isn’t what you’re getting. You want a sense of comradery, to know you aren’t alone.
You want to know that even in this difficult time, in the throes of your frustration, you are loved and supported.
You want to know you are enough.
And you are.
You know who else is enough? YOU, the person always giving advice.
Your presence is enough, your companionship. You don’t need the value added from all the advice and knowledge you have to be enough. Your shoulder to cry on and listening ear are worth more than you know.
So let’s be there for each other, in a real way. Let’s share in our frustrations and hold back on the advice until asked.
Let’s remind each other that we are enough.