You just saw those two little lines pop up on that screen.
You’re overcome with emotion more than likely; happiness, surprise, maybe you’re terrified, maybe you’re overjoyed. No matter the emotions you’re feeling it’s likely one of your first urges is to tell someone.
But who do you tell? And when?
Do you have a partner to tell? Do you wait and surprise them? Do you tell your family? Your best friend?
But wait… aren’t you supposed to wait before you tell some people? And why?
The general consensus is that you are supposed to wait to tell the general public until after you have hit your 12th week of pregnancy and enter your 2nd trimester. The warning it to only tell a few people you are very close to until your risk of miscarriage has dropped significantly at that time.
If you are someone who dislikes discussing potentially hard things with people and prefer to keep events like this to yourself that may be good advice, but why is this a universal recommendation?
Why do we tell those who frequently rely on their village to process hard things that they shouldn’t tell anyone? We have a tendency to treat the reproductive health of those with a uterus as taboo. All the “messy” parts of our bodies and the health issues that go with them are supposed to stay hidden behind the curtain, out of sight, out of mind. They are our own burdens to bear and no one else’s.
I’d like to challenge the idea that there is one “right” time to tell your village. You are allowed to pick when is best for you. You are allowed to share your initial excitement if you want to. You are allowed to be vulnerable.
You should not feel like if the worst happens you have to grieve behind closed or doors or that your pregnancy doesn’t really “count” until you reach that magical number of weeks.
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