Whenever I see an article titled “The REAL Problem with Kids These Days” I find myself hate clicking to read exactly how someone who hasn’t had children in their homes for ages thinks I’m messing my 3-year-old up. It’s super fun (AKA absolutely infuriating.) This article listed emotionally unavailable, digitally distracted parents as the number one problem with “kids these days.”
Especially since the article went on to state that the other problem was that parents today are overbearing, coddling, helicopter parents.
So, which is it?
Are we distracted or are we too involved?
Oh, that’s right, please go on to tell me about how much better things were “back in your day” when they sent kids outside to play all day (what were those parents ‘distracted’ by while their kids were outside all day) while simultaneously scolding me for being a millennial who is obsessed with tiny things like rising rates of anxiety and depression, and the importance of freedom of emotional expression.
What’s the answer? Are we supposed to never break eye contact with our children, maintaining an exact distance of five feet, following at this distance outside the entire day away from all things digital (they aren’t going to need that stuff to survive in our society anyways), while making sure we are emotionally available to them by which we mean teaching them to be tough (no more whiney baby snowflakes) and not discussing mental illnesses?
The truth is there have always been distractions. There has always been an older generation to be critical of a newer one, and not a single one has gotten this parenting thing 100% right.
Love your kids. Trust your gut.
And only read those ridiculous articles with your friends, on your cellphone, while being emotional unavailable and digitally distracted together so at least your screwed-up kids have screwed-up friends too. ;)