That's right. Tell them goodbye, talk to the hand, whatever you have to do. That birthing room is yourspace and you do not have to share it with anyone you don't want to.
I've seen so many women struggle with this, especially the ones who have a hard time putting their own feelings before everyone else's. It's even harder when someone close to you just assumes they will be invited into such an important space. It doesn't matter if it's your sister, your mother-in-law, your mom, or even your partner.
No one has the right to that room but you.
Your comfort level is crucial in labor. The more comfortable you are the easier it is to get that oxytocin flowing and keep labor moving along. If you're a modest person and the thought of baring it all in front of everyone is going to break your focus, it's important to consider who will be there during crunch time. If half your mind is worried about pooping in front of your mother-in-law you probably aren't putting your all into pushing. This is your birth experience. Own it and don't be afraid to let everyone know you're in charge of it every step of the way.
It's best to be open an honest with those around you from the start. Are you open to anyone being there who wants to be? Maybe just your partner? Any answer is the right answer as long as it makes you the most comfortable. Start talking about you plans early and clearly to avoid any misteps on the day your little one decides to make their arrival. Don't let anyone try to make you feel bad about who you chose to allow or not allow. There will be plenty of magical moments to share with them when all of you are ready afterwards.
Don't think you can't change your mind once you're there either. No reason is too big or too small. It doesn't matter if it's due to their constant eye rolling when you deny pain medication, if they ate onions for lunch and you can't stand the smell, or if they wore pink and it isn't a Wednesday. *gasp* Tell them they can't sit with you.
If you're stressing about dealing with the fall back during contractions or while you're busy focusing ask your partner, doula, or a nurse to handle it. It's why they're there.
Your birthing room is just that, yours. Surround yourself with people who support you, uplift you, and make you feel safe. Don't hesitate to tell someone you aren't comfortable with them being in your space while you labor. Here at Elevate Michiana Doula Services we've got your back and are here to help.
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